getting to know the man I realize I dont love him...? He ridicules me and my opinions, ridicules anyone with beliefs different than his, loves guns, hates minorities, complains about everything, always is "in pain", prioritizes with his own interests (his career, his parents, his hobbies, his friends) in mind. He was spoiled as a child and I think his parents reinforced the whole "you are perfect because thats how God made you..." attitude, which is a good attitude if you are conscious of your actions and their effects on others, but my husband is no longer religious and blames all of his own shortcomings on the fact that he was raised in a southern baptist church! He does nothing to better himself- poor hygene, no tact, alcoholic, self-absorbed, over weight, smokes AND dips, uses every racial slur you can imagine and claims it is a joke... Whenever I voice a concern he gives me the silent treatment like a baby, and he loves fighting and debate. I do not. I have had healthy, equal relationships in the past. This is neither. What to do???

I think that it's never a good idea to get married just because of a pregnancy. That is one of the reasons that divorce rates are so high these days.
The sad thing is that you're married to this man who doesn't care about you, doesn't respect you, and doesn't love you. He is not mature and you shouldn't be with someone who is not only racist but also self-absorbed.. he will bring nothing but problems to your life.
I think what you need to do is find a good divorce attorney. You cannot stay in this marriage forever because it will only make you miserable. Get out while you can before he ends up effecting your self-esteem and other things.

leave him and take your kid with you and demand child support

You only live one life, do what makes you happy!
You already know the answer. You don't love him therefore you should not be with him. I know it's easier said than done but it's the truth! Good Luck!!

You freakin' LEAVE.

Let me put it to you like this: if you stay in this mismatched relationship, you are setting a bad example for your child. Wouldn't you rather you child know you as a strong, independent woman who only has a man in her life b/c she WANTS one, and not b/c she NEEDS one? Why would you want your child to see you settle for something less than what you deserve.

This doesn't mean that after you leave, you should badmouth your child's father, no: let your child make up his own mind about his father. It'll be hard to leave, but life is short, and sometimes things are hard for a reason.

you shouldn't stay with him...you and your child would be better off without him being around....even if it is his dad, do you want your child to be influenced by that kind of person?....good luck

dude, that's so sad, but seriously you don't deserve that. yeah I agree with everyone else, just leave him and try to start anew unless you can convinve him to change which most likely isn't going to happen. If you ever do think of leaving him though, tell him first, maybe he'll change. Show him his original roots with Christianity, and explain that's not the way he was ment to be. Ask him who his friends are and if this was the life that he wanted. Who knows, it might motivate him to change.